Find out if the state where you were born has an adoption registry
(click here for general information on state adoption laws in the U.S.)
Talk to your adoptive parents.
Write down everything you can that you already know about your adoption. Even if you already have non-identifying information, think about asking for additional information about your birth parents' health, education, background, and interests.
Join a support group in your area and in the area you were born in.
Find a computer and look for adoption resources on the internet.
Take time to understand what your search means to you and why you are taking each step in your search.
Read about adoption. Many people recommend The Adoption Triangle by Sorosky, Baran & Panor, Lost and Found by Betty Jean Lifton, and Birthright by Jean A.S. Strauss as being particularly helpful at the beginning of a search. To read about experiences after reunion, try Birthbond, by Judith Gediman and Linda Brown, or, for a perspective on the birthmother's experience, read The Other Mother, by Carole Schafer, or Birthmothers: Women Who have Relinquished Babies for Adoption Tell Their Stories, by Merry Bloch Jones.
2014 American Adoption Congress
PO Box 42730
Washington, DC 20015